I like to say this ("Worry makes monsters out of shadows") because it's easy to lose perspective when we're worried about something.
Situations don't determine our feelings. Our responses to situations determine our feelings. What we think about the situation (our interpretation of it) determines how we'll feel and respond. This is why two people can be in the same situation and have totally different responses to it.
So what determines how we'll interpret something? There are many things but one of them is the frame of mind we're in as we enter the situation.
If we're already nervous or uncomfortable, we're more likely to interpret the situation in a way that makes us more nervous or uncomfortable.
What can we do about this?
The main thing, and easiest thing, is to remember this. It will help you regain perspective. If you find yourself reacting to a shadow (something small, benign) like it's a monster (something big, threatening), remind yourself that it may not be as bad as you think.
Turn the light on and see things differently. You'll see that it's likely much more manageable than it initially appeared.
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