What is the #1 Key Component to the Mindset of Success?

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There are many components to the mindset for success. I'll share the most important one with you here. We know from research on cognitive-behavioral therapy and positive psychology that people who are happy, fulfilled, and successful do something different than those who are not. What is this key to happiness and how can you become a business success story? The key is how you interpret the events in your life and business. Certain interpretations are likely to lead to anxiety and stress and other problems. If you conclude that something is beyond what you can handle, you're likely to become overwhelmed and feel that you cannot manage stress. If you conclude that something horrible will happen in the future, you are likely to experience anxiety. If you decide that something horrible is happening right now, you'll experience fear. When you interpret a situation as hopeless, you'll likely become down and sad. And when you interpret a situation as unfair or unjust, you'll get angry. Can you think of any times you've experienced these interpretations and their associated feelings? So, how does it all fit together? We know that our thoughts and mood impact our behaviors. And behaviors directly relate to results and success. Think about the last time you got into "the zone" and were able to produce at a high level. Chances are that your mood was not overly anxious and stressed, depressed, or angry. Instead you were probably feeling inspired, happy, and motivated. So what interpretations lead to these helpful feelings? When you experience success, you want to interpret it as, personal, stable, and global. This means you think, "I achieved this, I am often successful, and will continue to be in many activities." And when you fail, you want to interpret it as impersonal, unstable, and specific. For example, "This didn't go my way this time (because of external contributing factors, if that is true), but I am often successful, and will likely be the next time." Now you know more about the power of our interpretations to influence our moods and actions. It's up to you and within your control to determine how you're going to feel and what you're going to do. Isn't that great? Thanks for reading and please post any questions or comments. Larina Kase

Comments

[Rod Adkins]

Hi Larina,

I appreciate your clarity around explaining how this all works. The mindset of success can also be used effectively with kids, especially when they are emotional around events. Helping them to understand how they are really feeling, and helping them to interpret their behaviours to achieve a better result and happier feelings next time.

regards

Rod

[ray]

Hi Larina,

Great video, I'm not there yet but am doing some free conference calls
I am a Life Success Consultant taught by Bob Proctor. I would like to know if you would let me do an interview with you on a conference call. I will get the questions from my data base and call with an interview would you be interested??

[ray]

Hi Larina,

Great video, I'm not there yet but am doing some free conference calls
I am a Life Success Consultant taught by Bob Proctor. I would like to know if you would let me do an interview with you on a conference call. I will get the questions from my data base and call with an interview would you be interested??

[Lou Bortone]

Hi Larina:

So great to see you using video. Nice job! Fascinating topic, too. Hope you continue to use video on your blog - Feel free to call or e-mail for a couple of quick tips to make it look even better...
Best,
Lou

[Larina]

Hi Rod,

Thanks for reading (and watching) and your comments. Great point about teaching these ideas to kids- I love it. Kids respond well to labeling their thoughts and then learning how to change them (and therefore change their mood and behavior).

For example, when a kid is anxious he can call the anxiety "the worry bug" and can be encouraged to verbalize what the bug is saying, and then talk back to it (one way of talking back that is good).

Another good question (for kids or adults) is "Is there any other way to think about how that happened?" This encourages the idea of challenging our interpretations rather than taking them at face (and often inaccurate) value).

Cheers,
Larina

[Larina]

Hi Lou,

Thanks for the encouragement. For a recovering technophobe (me) having a blog and now video is a major accomplishment so I do feel good about it.

I will contact you for additional tips and please feel free to post them here as well. I have around 5,000 information experts as part of my community who are learning to use blogs, video, etc. for exposure and expert status, who may benefit from your recommendations as well.

:) Larina

[SIVARAM]

Dear Larina,

Great listening to your video. As always the key words or phrases from your video or articles is whtat gives me a kick start in any situation. Here I learn that "negative interpretation" will lead to negative thoughts. Thank you very much.
Regards
Sivaram

[Lorraine]

Hi Larina, Your comments are quite timely for me; as a caregiver to a family member with Alzheimer's Disease, I can experience the feelings of anxiety, fear, sadness and anger. I know from experience that these feelings are not helpful to my well being if I allow the feelings to take over. I will definitely think of your article about the interpretations of my experiences, and think of what is going on as impersonal if it is challenging, and personal if it is going well.

I think if I am running on automatic, I magnify and personalize the challenges, while minimizing and de-personalizing my brilliant successes in the care of my mother and father.

And, when I think about it, my contributions have been very successful, and I will savor that fact. And I will continue to be successful in my contributions to my family!

Thanks, Larina!

Sincerely,
Lorraine
http://www.midlifetheownersmanual.com

[Larina]

Lorraine,

What a thoughtful response, thanks so much for sharing.

A diffiulty that can happens relates to "mood dependent memory." This means that when we're down we remember all the other times we've felt down (and forget about the good things). Then everything looks bleak. The same proess happens for any moon (including fortunately the good moods. This causes the magnification you made reference to.

Take care, Larina

[Larina]

Sivaram,

Yes, you're exactly right. I'm not crazy about using the terms "negative" and "positive" but do so as a short-hand.

Interpretations lead to mood and physical responses which lead to behaviors which lead to results.

Thanks for your post!
Larina

[Louis Szabo]

Hi Larina,

It's great to see/hear you. I enjoyed your books the successful coach & the successful therapist. I haven't found much books on the subject in french. They're great to stay motivated particularly at the beginning of a practice (in Emotional Freedom Techniques).

EFT is also a nice way to help people change smoothly their interpretations (and beliefs).

Thanks for posting on this subject

Sincerely,
Louis

[Dennis Kelley]

Hi Larina,

As a business coach I see the same things you talk about regarding the mindset for success. Many of the prospects and clients I work with interpret events in their life in a way that lead to fear, anxiety and stress.

As I coach them through this and they start to succeed it is difficult sometimes for them to accept the success as being real. I coach my clients that it is up to them to decide how they will react to events that occur in their life and business. If they choose to react in a positive way they are much more likely to achieve success and enjoy it.

[Larina]

Dennis,

I love that you address these issues with your business clients. So many people want quick fix business solutions (like marketing tips) but without the right mindset their tactics fall flat.

You are so right about doubting success when it occurs. I had a guy come to me for coaching who had built 3 multi-million-dollar businesses and ran all 3 into the ground (you know why- mindset!).

Thanks for posting!
Laria

[Robin Harpe]

Dr. Larina:

Great job! Wonderful topic. It is all about how we see the world around us which does determine how effective we will be and become in our lives.

Navigate Your Life to Success,
Robin

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